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    Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by Meesh on Tue Aug 31, 2010 1:32 am

    It feels good duhh..

    Aside from that, here's what Kelli Miller Stacy wrote from WebMD's Health&Sex center. Reviewed by Laura J. Martin, MD

    Why Do People Have Sex?

    Sexual motives greatly surpass the 'Big Three' -- love, pleasure, and making babies.


    Your partner may come up with a dozen excuses to say "Not tonight, dear, I have a ____," but how many reasons can the two of you name for seeking sex?
    One? Two? Twenty? How about 200? Some college students have cited as many as 237 different reasons for having sex.
    From pleasure to procreation, insecurity to inquisitiveness -- today's reasons for taking a roll in the hay seem to vary as much as the terms for the deed itself. A 2010 Sexuality & Culture review of sex motivation studies states that people are offering "far more reasons for choosing to engage in sexual activity than in former times." And we're doing it more often, too. It is a stark contrast from historical assumptions, which tend to cite only three sexual motivators: To make babies, to feel good, or because you're in love.
    Today, sexual behaviors seem to have taken on many different psychological, social, cultural, even religious meanings. Yet, some sexologists say, at the most basic level, there is only one true reason people seek sex.
    Wired for Sex


    "We are programmed to do so. Asking why people have sex is akin to asking why we eat. Our brains are designed to motivate us toward that behavior," says Richard A. Carroll, PhD, a sex therapist and associate professor in the department of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine.
    The idea that humans are hard-wired for sex reflects an evolutionary perspective, says Elaine Hatfield, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Hawaii and author of that 2010 review examining sexual motives from cross-cultural, historical, and evolutionary viewpoints.
    "Evolutionary theorists point out that a desire for sexual relations is 'wired in' in order to promote species survival," she tells WebMD in an email. "Cultural theorists tend to focus on the cultural and personal reasons people have (or avoid) sex. Cultures differ markedly in what are considered to be 'appropriate' reasons for having or avoiding sex."
    What's Your Motive?


    Why do you seek sex? Motivations generally fall into four main categories, according to psychologists at UT-Austin, who asked more than 1,500 undergraduate college students about their sexual attitudes and experiences.

    • Physical reasons: Pleasure, stress relief, exercise, sexual curiosity, or attraction to a person.
    • Goal-based reasons: To make a baby, improve social status (for example, to become popular), or seek revenge.
    • Emotional reasons: Love, commitment, and gratitude.
    • Insecurity reasons: To boost self-esteem, keep a partner from seeking sex elsewhere, or because of a feeling of duty or pressure (for example, a partner insists on having sex).

    The Difference Between the Sexes


    Generally speaking, men seek sex because they like how it feels. Women - although they very well may also derive pleasure from the act - are generally more interested in the relationship enhancement aspects of sex. Researchers describe these differences as body-centered versus person-centered sex.

    • Body-centered sex is when you have sex because you like the way it makes your body feel. You are not really caring about the emotions of your partner.
    • Person-centered sex is when you have sex to connect with the other person. You care about the emotions involved and the relationship.



    "Men often start out being body centered," says Janell Carroll, PhD, adjunct professor of psychology at the University of Hartford and author of a human sexuality textbook. "But that changes later on. As men reach their 40s, 50s, and 60s, their relationship becomes more important."
    Richard Carroll, PhD, (no relation to Janell Carroll) has been counseling couples with sexual issues for more than two decades. "Women actually become more like men over time, in the sense that often early on, sex is about initiating, developing, strengthening, and maintaining relationships, but in a long-term relationship they can actually begin to focus on the pleasure of it."
    Despite the generalities, research suggests that there has been a big convergence in sexual attitudes among men and women in recent years. In 1985, Janell Carroll, PhD, and colleagues found that most college-aged males had casual sex for physical reasons, without emotional attachments. She repeated many of the same study questions to a new audience in 2006, and is working toward publishing her results.
    "Instead of men and women being at opposite ends of the sexual spectrum, they are now coming together," she tells WebMD. "More women might be having sex for physical reasons, but many more men were more likely to say they had sex for emotional reasons."
    20 Reasons People Have Sex


    Stressed out? Have sex. Stress reduction is one of the leading reasons Americans, particularly men, say they have sex, says Richard Caroll. The review, published online in Sexuality & Culture, shows other most frequently cited reasons for having sex include:

    • Boosting mood and relieving depression
    • Duty
    • Enhancement of power
    • Enhancement of self-concept
    • Experiencing the power of one’s partner
    • Feeling loved by your partner
    • Fostering jealousy
    • Improve reputation or social status
    • Making money
    • Making babies (procreation)
    • Need for affection
    • Nurturance
    • Partner novelty
    • Peer pressure or pressure from partner
    • Pleasure
    • Reduce sex drive
    • Revenge
    • Sexual curiosity
    • Showing love to your partner
    • Spiritual transcendence


    Why Study Sex?


    Understanding why people seek sex is not always a simple task. Most studies have involved college undergraduates, a "sample of convenience" for university researchers, but one that is often very limiting. Such young men and women typically haven't been in very committed relationships and are in the process of discovering their sexuality. Their answers to "why do you have sex" are often greatly tied to the image of themselves and their social relationships, says Richard Carroll, PhD. This can change over time.
    But such knowledge can improve a couple's sex life.
    "Understanding these differences in motivations is very important. It helps us understand what's going on in the sexual relationship and treat sexual disorders. Very often you find the source of the problem can be traced to the particular motivation," says Richard Carroll, PhD.
    If you need help, you can find a qualified sex therapist in your area through organizations such as the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapist (AASECT) or The Society for Sex Therapy and Research.
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    Re: Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by Vicky on Tue Aug 31, 2010 1:49 am

    with reading this becuase it fun men would said. Women would said becuase help created life and i said because i love to have it Smile
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    Re: Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by CruciA on Tue Aug 31, 2010 2:08 am

    Simply because IT FEELS GOOD or just to share the LOVE Very Happy
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    Re: Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by Manson60 on Tue Aug 31, 2010 8:34 pm

    haha I was going to say cause they want to bust a nut inside a nice warm place. Razz
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    Re: Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by SPADEZ on Wed Sep 01, 2010 10:29 pm

    people have sex for relief, of all kinds of things.. stress.. anger.. sadness.. intoxication (lol O_O).. just for the pleasure of it.

    Some sneaky ass chicks do it to get preggo to get their child support check, to tie a guy down, or for some other slick shit.

    Sex can be both pleasing & satisfying and it can also be dangerous & regretful. Think about that one before you jump on impulse.

    Nah i'm just playin just dew it! sw00t

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    Re: Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by Vicky on Wed Sep 01, 2010 11:35 pm

    yay sex Razz remember to bring condoms and birth control Smile
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    Re: Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by houdrummer on Thu Sep 02, 2010 12:55 am

    Meaning of life: procreation.

    Everyone has such a huge sex drive.

    Men buy nice cars, because materialistic women are stupid enough to get in them and possibly have sex with you.

    Women wear make up, because it attracts men. (and also women talk shit about eachother all the time so theyre always in a competition)

    I could go on and on, but in the end I know all of you want to have sex with me. Don't lie to yourself, but it's not gonna happen for most of you. Sorry to dissapoint you. j/k
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    Re: Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by CruciA on Thu Sep 02, 2010 5:52 am

    houdrummer wrote:Meaning of life: procreation.

    Everyone has such a huge sex drive.

    Men buy nice cars, because materialistic women are stupid enough to get in them and possibly have sex with you.

    Women wear make up, because it attracts men. (and also women talk shit about eachother all the time so theyre always in a competition)

    I could go on and on, but in the end I know all of you want to have sex with me. Don't lie to yourself, but it's not gonna happen for most of you. Sorry to dissapoint you. j/k

    LOL are you trying to play the reverse psychology thingy majiggy?! :O lmao

    http://www.the-en.com/funny-videos-f40/reverse-psychology-t1032.htm
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    Re: Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by Meesh on Thu Sep 02, 2010 6:43 pm

    Procreation for recreation for good sensations, sometimes leads to reproduction and multiplication o_o So use protection, to avoid further risk of mass infections and abortion.
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    Re: Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by cynella on Mon Sep 20, 2010 1:20 pm

    .... Like Nike says "Just Do It"
    Nah, all kidding aside. Sex may feel good, but be responsible. Wrap it up. You dont want STD's or an unwanted pregnancy. Abortion is not birth control. Lastly, take responsibility for your actions... It takes two to make a baby.
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    Re: Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by Meesh on Mon Sep 20, 2010 5:37 pm

    cynella wrote:.... Like Nike says "Just Do It"
    Nah, all kidding aside. Sex may feel good, but be responsible. Wrap it up. You dont want STD's or an unwanted pregnancy. Abortion is not birth control. Lastly, take responsibility for your actions... It takes two to make a baby.

    Agreed and AGREED! and takes an entire village to raise one!
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    Re: Why Do People Have Sex?

    Post by Vicky on Tue Sep 21, 2010 11:39 pm

    yeah kid are fun when there not your when they are there a nightmare pull out hair

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